Fail of Your Day


Um, what is with the hostility?

The distinction between sex and gender differentiates sex (the anatomy of an individual’s reproductive system, and secondary sex characteristics) from gender, which can refer to either social roles based on the sex of the person (gender role) or personal identification of one’s own gender based on an internal awareness (gender identity).[1][2] In some circumstances, an individual’s assigned sex and gender do not align, and the person may be transgender.[1] In other cases, an individual may have biological sex characteristics that complicate sex assignment, and the person may be intersex.
The sex and gender distinction is not universal. In ordinary speech, sex and gender are often used interchangeably.[3][4] Some dictionaries and academic disciplines give them different definitions while others do not.
Among scientists, the term sex differences (as compared to gender differences) is typically applied to sexually dimorphic traits that are hypothesized to be evolved consequences of sexual selection.[5][6]

Perhaps discuss these issues and definitions with whichever medical professional(s) are assisting you with your transition?


Fine, So gender is some bullshit they made up to divide us and make us hate each other while sex is what we actually experience, Got it.


If you want a personalized answer, we can’t help you. We don’t know what’s going on in your head and heart, only you do. We can really only supply you with what these things are generally accepted to mean. Just because that’s different from your experience, it’s not bullshit - it just means you have a different experience, as do many others, because obviously they can’t re-write the textbook every time an individual feels differently about the issue, or has a different experience.
I know it’s trite and rather unhelpful, but you have to decide your own meanings in relation to these issues from your own experience.

As Kate said, It’s better to discuss this with whatever medical professionals you have to hand, and/or other people with similar life experiences. We haven’t been there, we can hardly imagine what you’re going through, or what’s ahead of you and most of us are not medical professionals, I’m not sure how much assistance we can provide here.

But I can tell you that lashing out at people because they’re not giving you an answer that nobody but you can actually give you definitely isn’t going to solve it for you.



[S]ex (the anatomy of an individual’s reproductive system, and secondary sex characteristics).


The SF SCPA can get fucked.


Never had a back pain in my whole life until today. Early this morning while I was getting ready to get to work, I felt something on the left side of my back go doink. It has hurt since then. I keep trying to stretch around to fix it, but it’s not working.


That happened to me a few months ago. I woke up, and my entire lower back was painful and useless. I had trouble sitting up.

It went away on its own after a few days. If it had persisted for longer, I would have gone to a doctor.


I’ve had random pinched nerves in my back before. It just happens. Does it hurt when you raise your arm by any chance? That’s how mine usually manifest.

Bodies are stupid.


Moving my arm definitely has an effect. I don’t think it’s directly related to the shoulder, but just a side effect of all back muscles being somewhat connected. Seems like leaning to the left or right makes it hurt/or not hurt the most. It’s also getting gradually better now that I’m sitting down. I think I must have slept in a weird way and also it’s fucking cold.


Be wary. I found that sitting (as opposed to lying) slowly made it feel better. But as soon as I lay down the next night, it returned with anger.


Old man Rubin.

/15 characters of Old mannnnnnn


Good thing when I sit I am basically laying.


Oldening sucks big time. I’m not as good at videogames. Random bits of me hurt for no reason. Getting grey at the temples. This blows.

fuck the odbc protocol


Every time I get a new pain or ache I think “Well, this could be it! I might have this pain until the day I die!”

Thankfully there’s only been one thing that has stuck long term, which flares up every now and again. But that’s the exception that proves the rule.


Yep, pretty much. No chronic pains yet. I’m still only slightly old, not actually really old!


I have chronic pains, they do in fact suck.


At least your old age is only manifesting as temporary muscle pains right now. Some of us have aged into things like horrible pooping diseases.


That is so weird. I started having back pain about four months ago, and it is getting consistently worse. It is mostly my low back and hips. Also, it hurts to sneeze, to yawn, to bend over, my chest is swollen and tender, and my lower abdomen starts to hurt if I don’t wear a brace to support this crazy amount of weight I’ve gained that seems limited almost exclusively to my abdomen. Weirder still, it is like there is something inside my abdomen - squirming and kicking as if it is preparing to burst forth from me.

Getting old really is a pain. X-D

Edit: Really, though, I hope it gets better quickly. Perhaps try a heating pad? If it doesn’t resolve up shortly, see a specialist (but not a chiropractor, as you know).


It’s true, a lot of signs do point to Rubin possibly being pregnant.