So, I’m (mostly) cis, (mostly) het, and (italian) white, but this isn’t an opinion, it’s an observation.
I heard a thing this past weekend and I’ve been thinking about it and realized I’ve heard it in one form or another my whole life.
We were making (a fuckton of) tomato sauce and it was very labor intensive and required two families to actually do in one day. Part way through the job some of the mothers in attendance uttered the following to each other while observing one of the males stirring the cauldron:
Mom1: "We could never do this without the boys"
Mom2: "Yeah, could you imagine having to do this without any men?"
Mom1: general agreement with this sentement
Mom2: more agreement
Thinking on about this I’ve been hearing this all my life from ladies like this, from my mother’s church and from the affluent neighbors.
How on earth do I, mr cishetwhite address this? Like I expect this out of toxic masculinity bros. But when it’s coming from a bunch of ladies?
As to what I did, it’s pretty obvious. I kept my mouth shut and pretended I heard nothing. This will happen again. How does cishetwhite man get these ladies to accept that they can do whatever I can?
Now for the only opinion part of this, so I’ve fulfilled my obligation to the thread:
I do not like this, in my opinion, it sucks.