Fashion. OMG SHOES. Shirts that aren't T

Most of the fashion I see in Queens/Brooklyn for people my age seems to involve wearing ridiculous heavy clothing regardless of the weather. Heavy knit hat instead of a bike helmet.

Other things that are “in style” that I really do not like:

  • Pants that are too short, or rolled up, so that your intentionally dorky socks (or dorky ankles) can make an appearance.
  • Apparently every kind of shoe that is in style right now. I particularly dislike slip-ons, anything pointy, anything with tassels, and most of all those “chukka” boots. Barf.
  • Juxtaposing sneakers with more formal clothes, or more formal shoes with more casual clothes.
  • Wearing a sport jacket with everything. It’s very expensive to buy enough of them to wear one every day, expensive to dry clean, too warm, and generally uncomfortable.
  • Clothes that look like fancy pajamas, but aren’t pajamas.
  • Garish prints instead of just solid colors or stripes.
  • I could go on.

As for sweat shops, that is a topic for another thread.

You care a lot about fashion and aesthetics…

You also veto the far majority of fashion.

That just seems like a dangerously stupid thing to do rather than fashionable.

I have pulled this look off before but like collared shirt (or t-shirt), suit jacket, dark jeans and sneakers but I agree with all the others.
I have seen people dress like some of the guys in here at University but you wouldn’t see them like this in the real world.

I do that all the time but that’s because I have cerebral palsy and hate wearing uncomfortable shoes.

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@SuperPichu My take on fashion is you do you! I wear a lot of things that other people don’t like or take issue with, but I wear it because I am comfortable in it. So long as one’s attire is comfortable and reasonably appropriate for the given situation, then wear it without apology or explanation.

People used to give me crap about wearing heels a lot. The thing is, I sustained damage to my ankles and now it feels more comfortable to have my feet on an incline. Also, I love the being tall enough to see/reach things when I am wearing them. Surgeries have helped my ankles and the realities being on my feet a lot make it such that flatter or more supportive shoes are a necessity for certain activities, but I still wear my heels frequently and everyone else can shove it.

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One, I think it’s a good fashion. I’d say you have a good excuse to do it, but you don’t need one. I wear sneakers with suits to conferences all the time, and I’m not the only one doing it.

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I’ve had more than one person ask me if I’m vegan because I wear comfortable black shoes instead of uncomfortable leather ones.

As someone living in Sydney with ridiculous prices for clothing, H&M is my main shop (and thrift stores). I tend to go with the H&M basics range due to their affordability and enduring style as they tend to mix and match with everything. Finding good black shiny round toed pump high heels with no frills though is a challenge when not ordering on ebay.

Hard to describe my fashion as a whole though. I drift from basic but good looking clothing, to wearing a 3 piece pants suit, to having dresses that make me feel like Audrey Hepburn.

Would love the cyberpunk look, but my wallet and current availability says no.

I very much agree with the “try all things” method. I make a point whenever I’m clothes shopping to try on something which gives me the gut reaction of “pft, that’ll never work” because occasionally the gut lies. It’s a good way to get out of a wardrobe rut. This has however, ended in me owning a lot of clothes with pretty odd prints and I would maybe describe my style as “male k-pop idol”.

This is a much harder strategy for men because your choices are usually “do I get the shirt in this colour, or this colour?” They really don’t give you guys much variety.

My four fashion tips for the day:

  1. Knits pill over time. No matter how careful one may be with laundering and wearing knitwear, pilling happens. Sweater shavers/defuzzers are a cheap way to keep old knits (sweaters, hoodies, gloves, hats, blankets, etc.) looking newer longer. I prefer the battery operated models to the corded ones, and have found that sweater stones (like a pumice for knits) can be incredibly damaging to clothing and leaves a fine grit on all items which takes additional laundering to remove. If you’ve never used a knit shaver before, use a gentle touch to begin with - if you press down hard, it may start cutting into the garment.

  2. Fleece lined tights/leggings can turn dresses/skirts into winter wear as well as act as base layers for pants/jeans. They come in a gazillion patterns and colors.

  3. Find a signature accessory to add a bit more personality into your style - be it hats, belts, watches, scarves, big earnings, statement necklaces, pocket squares, pins, a particular style of shoes, wigs, socks (yes, you can do a lot with jazzy socks), etc. Choose an accessory type you love and cultivate a collection (a few choice pieces or a mountain of variety) to include in your daily dressing. This isn’t to say that can’t own/love other accessories, just hone in on one accessory that speaks to you or you find fetching and make it your own.

  4. If you are on a budget and enjoy/don’t mind wearing dresses, they provide great value to your wardrobe. Often, a single dress costs less than a pair of pants and a shirt (it is also fewer pieces to try on). A dress on its own can be an entire outfit or pair it with things you already own to switch up the look/make it weather appropriate. Add a turtle neck, button up, or peter pan collared shirt underneath, a cardigan/jacket on top, a belt and a scarf, or just switch up the shoes and jewelry to create the right look.


How to get a dress shoe that is actually comfortable to wear like a sneaker?

Spend about $200 or more on a pair.


I agree with George, I can get some nice looking shoes on amazon for really cheap, but they’re pretty uncomfortable.

I refuse to believe that the only comfortable, but not ugly doofy, dress shoe is the very expensive one.

I like Rockports, they’re like $120-$150? Is that too much?

Why? It makes a lot of sense for that to be the case.

I’ll try it. I can literally order thousands of dollars worth of shoes from Zappos, and return all but one pair.

I see plenty of other dudes in NYC who have to dress up for work in finance or whatev, and they all wear dress shoes every day. Are you telling me that all of them are either a) hurting their feet or b) spending $400 on shoes?

They’re spending more than $100 for a pair of dress shoes, I guarantee it.

EDIT: Also my dad likes Ecco, but he had to figure out his European size for them to fit right.